Being a Grown Up

Today I learned that one of my bosses is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints but not currently attending a ward. Though I live in the Salt Lake Valley, I didn't make this assumption as she recently moved here from out of state. In talking with her she about going to church, she made the comment, "I need to be a grown-up". It was in reference to her feeling that she should start going again and the struggle those feelings have with her desire to just have a second Saturday.

I think in life we all have these types of moments, where we struggle with what a grown-up should do and what we want to do. I'm no exception. I have recently filled my schedule with tasks to help others and find myself asking more and more "what about what I want to do?". The thing is, I love what I've filled my schedule with. It is not a matter of not liking what I have scheduled, it is a matter of wanting more freedom to do anything, usually nothing, and (lets be honest) essentially nothing. Isn't time to sit around and not feel like we have to do anything what we are really looking for?

I find it interesting that we associate grown-up with productivity and children with the lack thereof. I can, thankfully, remember fondly many activities where I've had the opportunity as part of a group to enjoy giving service. I love the feeling of accomplishment when a project is finished but more, I've noticed something that happens when I'm productive. When I get home, I am more eager to get things done (or I'm dead exhauted). I have to ask, does productivity breed productivity? Why do some productive people seem to burn out? Why do some not burn out?

I don't want to burn out (once I get to being productive) and so I'm curious about this issue. I have to share that my gut instinct is that people who don't burn out boundary their what-about-me moments. I say boundary because I have to assume that they have them and that they have act on them to not burnout. I just think that they must give limits to how much time they will spend "just doing nothing" (ie hanging out, watching tv, browsing the internet, playing video games).

Now I just need to test my hypothesis. How long do you think this will take?


After thinking more about this the last couple days, I've decided upon a definition of being a grown-up.

Being a grown up is not a matter of age, it is a matter of doing what you know you should do instead of what you want to do.

I have know some older people who were terrible grown ups (my dad would probably site some of the youth leaders who took my brother's group mountain biking and, failing to give proper guidance, lost my brother in the mountains for a whole day) and some young people who are truly grown ups.